How often do you see the parentals?

[Amelie]

I try to squeeze in a few visits a week, i used to see my mum every day but over the last year i have cut it down. I like coming home, my mum (when the mood suits) usually lets me regress to about 15, and she makes me cups of tea and brings me a nice selection of nibbles. Also i can usually tell her all my troubles and she always takes my side. My mum did greet me today with 'your bum looks big- have you been comfort eating again, is that when you have bad skin'? So due to this i am cutting the bitch down to one visit a week like she gets off my sister (who is viewed as ace at all times).

A plus point of visiting my folks is that my mum stock piles loads of mag's for me. She gets Q, Heat, NME and Now. Sometimes if i am lucky an occasion OK too.

They do annoy me though, and i can only ever manage a few hours max before i am desperate to get out. My dad talks such utter boring nonsense, he will tell me for like 25 mins how he joined The National Trust.

So what is the best/ worst bits of visiting your parentals?

 

[sirius]

I see mine everyday, no choice in the matter, hehehe.


Seriously though, although parents can be increasingly cutting as they get older and more set in thier ways than ever before, I find I like to be 'bored' and be in thier company and am grateful that I have them here for company and that we get on well together.

The thing with parents is (even those people who have rifts), that as time moves ever faster under our feet, its even faster at thier age and it wont be all that long before we are approaching thier age and they will no longer be with you.

My advice is to make the most of them, spend time with them, get to know them, ask them about thier childhood and how they met each other, what thier jobs were like, whether they went to church, what thier mum and dad were like etc etc, even though its not normal these days to do so, becuase one day you will turn round and they will no longer be there, and that fills me personally with deep sorrow more than I can convey.

We all dont do it, thats the trouble, and theres so much I dont know about them and so many things I never get round to talking about. For this reason, the song by Mike and The Mechanics called 'the living years' really rings home to me and virges me on blubbering sometimes when I imagine when I wont have a loving mother who is oining me for washing up or asking whether I want a cardigan she spotted in ethel austin or whatever nonsense, or a loving father who still amazes me to the point of dumbfoundment with his sheer genious and ingenuity or the way he gets awkward and sulks at certain stuff or does 6 months worth of gardening in one day flying about at 100 miles an hour and trimming the hedge by floodlight lol. Its the little things you will miss I think.

So, although they can be annoying as hell at times, and sometimes cutting and sometimes your best freind, make the most of them, for time romps on faster than we realise.

Now Ive gone and upset myself.


Sirius.

 

[DeeDee]

i see my mum about twice a year or more if she needs something and when she's here its very strained, she came down early this week because she was going to the hospital and im a stop off inbetween the hospital and the train station, she tried to be upset because the baby didnt recognise her duh im not surprised she's only seen him three times since he was born....he's 15 months old now!!!and my dad well.......i see him even less!!!

 

[Judderz]

I see the parents about once a week....but it's gonna be even less soon...as they are selling their house and moving to Skegness

 

[old_skool_daze(Phil)]

I see my mum and dad probably once a week, if i don't i get are you alright we haven't seen you for ages :$

Take my dad for a pint and i always get asked "do you want your tea "

In fact i try and see as many Friends as i can in the week and land up about tea time

 

[nowthen]

Only see me mum an step dad about once every couple of months now, with me being in Chorley an them back in Manc.

Its ace when I do go tho, get proper looked after me mums got a heart of gold an will do what she can for anyone (too much sometimes, shes running around like a blue arse fly nearly 24/7).

Its quite a grin visitin anyway, me step dad is pure entertainment...a dodgy mix of part Del Trotter part McVicar....he's always up to some mad money making scheme and more often than not tries to rope me into it.

Got 2 top little sisters too (age 11 & 13) so go to see them 2 aswell.

Never see me 'real' old fella, he's not lived with us for 18 years and not bothered to ring me or our kid for over 2 years, so he won't be gettin a very warm reception when/if he does decide to give us a bell.

 

[Saysay]

I see my mum about twice a week, she only lives up the road, on a nice day we sit in her garden, put some music on and have a good chat. I see my dad maybe once every two weeks, he lives in preston and works shifts so its more difficult to see him.

 

[spiely]

Stay with my mum whenever i come home or she visits Canada