tough one this
bit like the old... would you choose to lose your sight or your hearing (if you had to make a choice)? ;o)
N* and MissT have come out with some good'uns... but only you know how she would react.
I'm far too honest for my own good - I would rather say too much and be damned, knowing that I have been true to myself and can look people in the eye without having to turn away.
However, sometimes the truth hurts - even if there's nothing to hide. I think it was N* that said, if she's in the least bit insecure this could cause trouble.
I've done something like this before with my long termer (5 yrs girlf - lived together etc) that ended last year - I bumped into an ex (that the then current didn't like anyway) and I told her that we went for a drink...
Why go for a drink with her?
Why didn't you tell me on the night?
You said you were with friends!
What did you talk about?
Did I crop up in the conversation?
Where does she live now?
Did you get new contact details for her?
etc...etc...etc...
Why didn't I tell you hun? Because I knew you were going to go spare.
Did anything happen. No.
Was it the cause of the split. No.
Did it add to the pressures we faced? Of course it did...
Why... because "a lot" of girls (no stereotyping broad statements here lasses) store things up that hurt them... pretend to forget about them, and then let em rip when the time suits em best - normally, when they want to kick you right down.
Be careful bud - do what YOU think is right, and stick by your decision - that way, if anything does go pear-shaped, you know you did what your mind,heart and soul told you to do.
Be lucky.
BrixTim