whats more important?

[Saysay]

if yer mates are proper mates they understand that, an are just happy that your happy, no matter how less often you catch up with em than when you was single.

Couldnt agree with you more, if your a true mate then seeing your mate happy with someone should be all that matters, you come second, and if it all was to go tits up then as a friend you should be there for them regardless of whether they've been spending all their time with YOU or not!

I find meself missin Trace loads while im away.

Awwwww!! Im exactly the same, i find myself missing you too whilst im out! Proper loved up and its mint!!

*I'll pass you all a bucket* :$

 

[RetroAndy]

I have this one mate who was a right scally. Into allsorts with the rest of us. The thing is he met a girl about 4 yrs ago now and suddenly changed. He eventually stopped coming out and getting leathered and started to neglect his mates. So one by one they all dis owned him as in my opinion theres no need for that. But after about a year of hardly seeing him he rang me and sure enough he needed that shouder to cry on so i did the decent thing and listened. Anyways he got back with the girl but started to realise wat he had done and made more of an effort. But just recently its all gone tits up for him for good and he has really needed that shoulder again ad because of the way he changed before i am still here.

My point after all that is first off all she changed him and in my opinion for the better. He stoped getting into trouble started saving money etc etc. My second point is if i wouldn't have been here he really wouldn't have had any body to turn to which is sad and has made me think that i wont make the same mistake in the future.

So moral of that very long story like loads of ya have said is ya g/f b/f can come and go and prolly will but ya mates will always be there for ya as long as ya make the effort

Andy

 

[jenwah]

i reckon that there is no way that u should sod ya mates off as soon as someone comes along, cause it so true that when the relationship is over, they are the ones who will let u cry on their shoulder.

i did it wit my ex (partly cause he was a possesive b@stard and wouldnt let me go out it them) and then when it all went pete tong i had absolutely no one in the world!! and it was crap.

thing is, its a really hard game to play if all ur mates are single, cause u have to in some way adapt to the new relationship u have taken on. if u agree to b wit somone then u have to make room for them aswell to a point where they feel like they are valued too. u cant jus make them feel like they are a sort of stand in when ur mates are busy, which is easy to do.

its so hard to hit the correct balance, cause one of the two is bound to feel left out at times, but as long as its not the same one bein discarded and forgotten all the time then it can work really well!! i mean, there's no harm in spendin time wit both is there? But its so easy to lose either of them because of mis-matched priorities, its not the amount of time spent anyway, its the quality, and as long as u make sure ur new partner feels as valued as ur mates know they are then all is well!!

(LOL waffled a bit there :$)

 

[nathan]

lol

i reckon that there is no way that u should sod ya
(LOL waffled a bit there :$)

yeah you did but it was all good

 

[nathan]

anyway

yeah you did but it was all good

the point is. Don't forget your mates. they may be missing you.

 

[Amelie]

the point is. Don't forget your mates. they may be missing you.

:$ piont taken, your totally right, it wrong just to forget those who were around before. Lol i will catch you later Mr Davis

 

[JohnnyPink]

Very true indeedy Lesley...and if yer mates are proper mates they understand that, an are just happy that your happy, no matter how less often you catch up with em than when you was single.

I don't think there should be any need to think about dividing your time, you should just go with the flow....when you feel like spendin time with your nearest n dearest...do so...an when you feel like spendin time with yer mates...do so!

Every couples different as to the amount of time they can spend with each other without goin loopy, personally...I have a right grin when I go out with me pals but even tho Im havin a top time, I find meself missin Trace loads while im away. Its whatever suits every indervidual couple.

Totally agree with ya there fella. Well put.

 

[Dr. Dodge]

yeah Friends rule I once got told "Friends are the family you choose" which kinda makes sense. But a couple of my friends went and got G/fs and didn't see us very often so they became known as Fishfaces ??? whihc I thought was a little harsh. In fact I haven't seen my "best" friend for over six months cause she spends so much fuckin time with her fiance (who is a dick face). anyways fair enough if they've got other commitments with a relationship but I reckon they shoulld keep a little bit of time for their mates even if it is just an hour at the pub.

 

[nowthen]

A few people have put about mates bein ditched cos they haven't seen much of other mates who have been spendin all their time with their partners...If any of my 'mates' didn't still wanna be me pal cos I'd been spendin all me time with 'me julie' ...then I woudn't reacon they had been real mates in the first place, an therefore no great loss really.

cos real pals should be there no matter what, I've got a few pals that will always be me mates no matter what, even if they piss yer off, yer have a few words (an sometimes even exchange a few digs) but still end up laughin about it (an comparin bruises) the next day.