whats she really saying?

[Saysay]

they discussed him moving up from london to york to where she lives. not to move in with her mind. Just to be nearer. He had a job interview and everything. she was cool and then flipped out over it. things haven't been same since but through it all he loves her. More than anything but they argue like hammer and tongs.

Sounds to me like shes realized she was commiting herself by him moving up to York, and shes totally freaked out by it! She obvioulsy wasnt ready for it, but unfortunalty its taken untill now for her to find out. Maybe shes worried that if he moves up to York things wont be as good as they were before and that by breaking up with him sooner rather than later its doin him a favour.

I think texting him is not the right way to go about it, she could have spoke to him on the phone at least!! Very insensitive of a person who (goin of the text) cares for him!!!

 

[nathan]

wicked

This is a total cop out. The lass in question couldn't face telling him to his face so texts him and then if he replies prolly wont get a reply. If they have any feelings at all even as friends then they would find the balls to say it to his face mate. I am talking from experience fella as you know

Not sure about the other person either but whether they is or not thats no way to be dumped

Respect man thats all it is

Andy

you're an absolute star andy. i could kiss ya. welcome to the honesty campaign. i could kiss ya.

 

[nathan]

yet again

Sounds to me like shes realized she was commiting herself by him moving up to York, and shes totally freaked out by it! She obvioulsy wasnt ready for it, but unfortunalty its taken untill now for her to find out. Maybe shes worried that if he moves up to York things wont be as good as they were before and that by breaking up with him sooner rather than later its doin him a favour.

I think texting him is not the right way to go about it, she could have spoke to him on the phone at least!! Very insensitive of a person who (goin of the text) cares for him!!!

you're on the money. Here is an update.

he knows (i'm not saying how) that she has sent an email saying she dumped him cause he was clingy and possessive. so guess what? she was telling the truth all along but trying to be slightly nice.

 

[Miss C]

She obviously aint worth the trouble then

 

['Shabba']

so guess what? she was telling the truth all along but trying to be slightly nice.

Yeah!!!!!!!!! I was the only one who voted that she was. Ignoring the fact that it was a text, honest yet gentle is much better than brutal, tell it how it really is.

I hope he gets over her and meets someone even better who loves him for exactly who he is.

 

[nathan]

good for u shabbs

Yeah!!!!!!!!! I was the only one who voted that she was. Ignoring the fact that it was a text, honest yet gentle is much better than brutal, tell it how it really is.

I hope he gets over her and meets someone even better who loves him for exactly who he is.

you have a heart of gold. Its hilarious he hasn't replied and has recieved 8 messages from the loon since. all saying i think this is for the best in 8 different ways. jesus christ. Is there no sanity in this world

 

[blue jammer]

Dumped by text message, harsh.

" U r an amazing person who i believe maybe came at the wrong time. i fell 4 u but constantly let you know that we weren't a unit as i was determined to be independant in ALL my decisions for the first time ever. I'm truly sorry but i guess i knew that I would come to resent you if we
settled down without me ever finding who i am by myself (cliche but true). "

He should have got in first and dumped the bitch.

Using bloody txt spk in a text message like that, chuh, some people.

:|

 

['Shabba']

you have a heart of gold. Its hilarious he hasn't replied and has recieved 8 messages from the loon since. all saying i think this is for the best in 8 different ways. jesus christ. Is there no sanity in this world

The one thing worse than being dumped is dumping someone else and them not being in the least bit arsed about it(or at least not showing that they are)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[nathan]

innit

The one thing worse than being dumped is dumping someone else and them not being in the least bit arsed about it(or at least not showing that they are)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

it must be well annoying. I wander which good friend adviced him to do that

 

[jenwah]

personally, i think it is to let him down gently, as miss saysay said, if u do feel like u connect wit someone then there is no way that u let them get away, even if u feel u dont know how things would turn out.
i believe that there can b a stage when someone isnt ready for a relationship, but even in that stage, i think if u really 'click' wit a person then it would b hard in the first place to let them go. Meeting and likin someone enough to b wit them isnt somethin u would ever b able to plan. If it was then why are there so many single & unhappy people around? And why do u always find someone special when u stop lookin???

U can easily say the straight out truth, but then risk really hurtin this person even more, cause although u may not want to b wit that person, u may still have a bond wit them, and in normal human nature, most people would strive not to hurt someone who obviously cares for them, any more than they have to. (hence the sugar coating) at the end of the day, what she is sayin is that she doesnt want it, no matter how she said it. And u jus need to get ur mate out and buy him a truckload of tequila!!!

 

[jenwah]

I think its just the txting thing does my nut in. Over what sounds like a pretty serious relationship as well

What did we do b4 our moby's in school???

Oh yeah get yer friends to finish em lolol

i know, the txtin is really shit!
that really would piss me off, cause its really not right, i mean, u should say it face to face where possible, over the phone at a push, but ny txt!

i'd take a hot poker to his eyes before he spelt the word sorry....

 

[nathan]

well

i know, the txtin is really shit!
that really would piss me off, cause its really not right, i mean, u should say it face to face where possible, over the phone at a push, but ny txt!

i'd take a hot poker to his eyes before he spelt the word sorry....

he's still being silly. He rang me last night to say that she had sent him a text saying that she didn't want to ring him so that must mean that she wanted him to ring her. lol jesus. some people don't know when to quit. But I guess its hard to give up on something that you believe is right even if you;re fighting a one way battle

 

[jenwah]

u know what??

all i can c now from this situation, is that she is despeately tryin to get attention from ur mate!!
if she doesnt say she wants to get bk wit him then tell him to tell her where to go!
at the end of the day, this bird is jus that - - a bird! and no matter what anyone says, a woman will try and try to get the attention of any male goin!
and i have absolutely no time whatsoever for these types of women!
if she says its over, and then keeps txtin him sayin the same things in different ways then its obvious that she wants him to beg her to reconsider, some people do that to provoke a reaction from someone.

if she has said, its not workin cause of A,B,C,D.....etc, then she mite b attention seekin by waitin for him to say, "well, i'll change A,B,C,D.....so that u'll stay wit me" and then this bird gets all the attention that she wants so they get bk together and he thinks cause the problem has been sorted that they will b all fine and good, cause she got what she wanted and seems happy, but when this bird wants another little span of attemntion, she will do it again! Makes me so so angry!
trust me, i know so many girls like that, well, i used to!
jus tell him to get shut of her, no matter how much he likes her, he was happy before her and he will b happy again!
and there will b a better bird out there, and he will find her, its jus a matter of bein in the right place at the right time!

 

[nathan]

lol

u know what??

all i can c now from this situation, is that she is despeately tryin to get attention from ur mate!!
if she doesnt say she wants to get bk wit him then tell him to tell her where to go!
at the end of the day, this bird is jus that - - a bird! and no matter what anyone says, a woman will try and try to get the attention of any male goin!
and i have absolutely no time whatsoever for these types of women!
if she says its over, and then keeps txtin him sayin the same things in different ways then its obvious that she wants him to beg her to reconsider, some people do that to provoke a reaction from someone.

if she has said, its not workin cause of A,B,C,D.....etc, then she mite b attention seekin by waitin for him to say, "well, i'll change A,B,C,D.....so that u'll stay wit me" and then this bird gets all the attention that she wants so they get bk together and he thinks cause the problem has been sorted that they will b all fine and good, cause she got what she wanted and seems happy, but when this bird wants another little span of attemntion, she will do it again! Makes me so so angry!
trust me, i know so many girls like that, well, i used to!
jus tell him to get shut of her, no matter how much he likes her, he was happy before her and he will b happy again!
and there will b a better bird out there, and he will find her, its jus a matter of bein in the right place at the right time!

It sounds like you know her. Its painful to be a bystander and know what he should be doing and telling him what to do and him totally ignoring you. But what u say is spot on shes been doing this on repeat for months now. a complete loony bunny boiler.

 

[jenwah]

thats what i mean, she is attention seekin, what u wanna do is let him read it, and then see what he says, it mite not b what he wants to see, but u have to b cruel to b kind dont you?

i know what u mean bout bein a bystander, u know, i ghave seen so many of my mates go through the same thing (most of mates r guys) and i have told them the same thing, but u also gotta put urself in his shoes, cause it is hard to believe that someone u love so much would mess u around like that!

jus b there for him and he will appreciate that the most wont he?

 

[nathan]

hhhmmm

thats what i mean, she is attention seekin, what u wanna do is let him read it, and then see what he says, it mite not b what he wants to see, but u have to b cruel to b kind dont you?

i know what u mean bout bein a bystander, u know, i ghave seen so many of my mates go through the same thing (most of mates r guys) and i have told them the same thing, but u also gotta put urself in his shoes, cause it is hard to believe that someone u love so much would mess u around like that!

jus b there for him and he will appreciate that the most wont he?

very apt thread still this un. Boys and girls continue to lie to each other everyday. tis a very sick world