Hello all, i don't come on Osser really anymore, but i do occasionaly have a little look at what is going on.
I think what AntF is trying to say is that he can't understand why people continue to and actually step up the levels of hatred when a quite a few people have said that they don't like it. I appreciate that many feel they have the right to say whatever the fuck they like, but the way i see it is this. OSA is a really great community forum that has stood the test of time down to the hard work of members keeping it going. Its like any friendship group- without respect and shiz then it will just fall to pieces. This does not mean that people can't post their opinions, but surley on a subject as emotive as cancer then do so in a manner that is not going to hurt others feelings when they have already said you are already doing so. You just don't do that when you're amongst freinds that for whatever personal reason don't find it funny. If you were in the pub and one of your circle of friends asked you to stop, you would- its no different here. Unless of course you don't see the other members as your mates and you have a 'fuck it' attitude, in which case thank God everyone else doesn't otherwise OSA would be far different forum from the place it is now.
As for Jade Goody, i really am not her biggest fan. She is fame hungry and has pimped her ass out at every opportunity for cash. But that is all i hate her for, as i really find it hard to hate someone for being uneducated, or naturally stupid- its not really her fault. In some ways i do admire her for breaking the cycle- it would have been so easy for her to have lived in a council house on income support and had kids that just do the same, and the grandkids the same- but hey, perhaps not in the most talented way she got out of that. For those that say she has not hard a hard life, she has. True, loads of us have- but to say she has not is bullshit. My own father was a smackhead, and my mum was 'different'. Its not easy, and that kind of shit when you're a kid can fuck with your head longterm if you are not carefull. Perhaps i have empathy right now for Jade Goody as i am a mother myself, a female who never keeps up to date with smears. Perhaps she made me realise how it could be me, or any other young woman off here that still has so much living to do. Jonnos' mum died of cancer when he was young, and its so tragic that our children miss out on meeting her, nor her them. Imagine being told that you will never see a clear blue summers day again, or that you will never see your children become adults. I cannot bear to think of that kind of fear. Sure, she is annoying and has made mistakes- but shit, this is her life stopping forever.
I think it could have been argued that this thread started out as a pop at Jade Goody, but i think that it becomes a joke about cancer when you start to use jokes about someone having a bald head advertising Easter eggs, certainly with the suggested slogan of 'how do you cure yours'. I think to me that was the nastiest part, and the bits that kinda make me have little respect for those that post it.
My dad, who in addition to being a smackhead was also abusive, died last year of cancer. I never really knew him other than from a kid- even then he was a big baddie that we hid from in safe houses. But you know, seeing a man like that dying gave me no joy. I cannot believe that someone has said that Jade Goody is getting poetic justice. Justice for what? Perhaps i saw a really bad case, but there is very little someone could do in this world that would make me feel that that kind of ending was justice. For him it was agonising, undignified and full of fear. I don't care what Jade Goody has done, or how annoying etc she has been. The poor woman is about to go throught the most horrific thing ever, and to know she is going to be leaving behind her children must break her heart.
However distastefull her recent media coverage has been, i honestly believe that some good has come of it. Cervical screening has gone up and women are being more pro-active in their health care. Also, i for one will try to appreciate a little more just how lucky i am to live another year.
Soz for all the spelling errors/typo's and shiz. I don't have time to check and balancing two babies whilst typing is hard bloody work!
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