should i tell her or shouldn't I

[misstickle]

me and nathen then

Believe me, Nathan know less than you even mate

Right well, if either of you knew women, you'd realise that all women are different for a start. Secondly, we're a lot tougher than you idiotic men think we are and thirdly, WE HAVE A CLITOROUS!!!!

 

[Northern Star]

Well this is the next step isnt it.....can you approach each other in such ways.......tell the truth and be trusted and respected for doing...id say that was a positive!!!!!

When does it end, are you going to run from such issues for the rest of ur days together........test the waters now not later when things get a whole lot more complicated........the thing is........if she says to you that she isnt happy bout you meeting ur ex...then what are 'YOU' going to do about is more the issue....is this what you are really scared of.......havin to make the choice????

Ask urself really....why is this such a big deal.....she may not like it........but you do have a choice!!!!!!!

i think also you will find if you said 'ok then i wont go, i care for you too much, then reverse phycology will win the day and she will end up saying...awwww im sorry of course you should go, im just being silly....then you can get all these issue out in the open at this time!!!! '..........makes perfect sense hahahahahah :S :|[/QUOTE


But what you are saying involves playing games and manipulation and I don't want to get into any of that . This is what i'm saying when I say negatives can only come. I could tell her she'd be totally cool wouldn't say a thing as she is lovely
but inside she will be a bit paranoid as everybody would be to a certain extent and she is stressed enough and I don't thinkl its worth putting her through it. Even though she'd be cool she would never cause a fuss about it as shes just not like that

no no not at all...this is not playing games.....think about it........you have told her the truth.....!

This may make her ask you why u want to meet her in which it opens a door for you to be honest

She then either says i dont mind? or she does!

This will inevitably open another door for more communication!!!

This way....she will either see that what you propose is no threat or she will say will make you see that this is not a necessary action!!!!!!

Where is the game play in that!!!!!!

Meeting your ex and not telling her hun is the worse game you can play!!!!! if im honest, any bloke of mine who decided to go meet an ex without at least telling me would be for the high jump!!!!! as this tells me you either dont trust yourself or dont care enough to trust me....whichever way you look at it...the ex is the enemy to her and if you are truly happy etc this should not be an issue! you should be rock solid in ur relationship enough to know and understand each other!!!!!!!

Maybe suggest she goes along with you and find out for herself.....

 

[cam]

Believe me, Nathan know less than you even mate

Right well, if either of you knew women, you'd realise that all women are different for a start. Secondly, we're a lot tougher than you idiotic men think we are and thirdly, WE HAVE A CLITOROUS!!!!

no we know you like to think your different, thats not the same as being different but never mind hun carry on

oh and by the way, would the clitorous be that little prominant round like type of skin that causes the verginal area to go wet whilst gently strokedin a circular motion, pressing at certian times a little harder causing the female to gasp with pleasure? The same part that cause even more pleasure when teased with the tounge?

Of cause being a man, i wouldnt know much about it, purely a guess

 

[brixtonite]

tough one this

bit like the old... would you choose to lose your sight or your hearing (if you had to make a choice)? ;o)

N* and MissT have come out with some good'uns... but only you know how she would react.

I'm far too honest for my own good - I would rather say too much and be damned, knowing that I have been true to myself and can look people in the eye without having to turn away.

However, sometimes the truth hurts - even if there's nothing to hide. I think it was N* that said, if she's in the least bit insecure this could cause trouble.

I've done something like this before with my long termer (5 yrs girlf - lived together etc) that ended last year - I bumped into an ex (that the then current didn't like anyway) and I told her that we went for a drink...

Why go for a drink with her?
Why didn't you tell me on the night?
You said you were with friends!
What did you talk about?
Did I crop up in the conversation?
Where does she live now?
Did you get new contact details for her?

etc...etc...etc...

Why didn't I tell you hun? Because I knew you were going to go spare.

Did anything happen. No.

Was it the cause of the split. No.

Did it add to the pressures we faced? Of course it did...

Why... because "a lot" of girls (no stereotyping broad statements here lasses) store things up that hurt them... pretend to forget about them, and then let em rip when the time suits em best - normally, when they want to kick you right down.

Be careful bud - do what YOU think is right, and stick by your decision - that way, if anything does go pear-shaped, you know you did what your mind,heart and soul told you to do.

Be lucky.

BrixTim

 

[blue jammer]

She's coming from Berlin to London to spend 1 hour with you, for 'tea' ?

Bollocks!

Sorry, just don't believe that.

Ex's are ex's for a reason.

Leave them as ex's unless you've got kids with them or sommat, keep well clear.

 

[nathan]

jesus christ

right here is the full sp....
for a start tickle can't spell clitoris which is just unforgivable.

Right this ex is a friend of mine we were together years ago. There is nothing between us. WE meet occasionally when shes in teh country to catch up and have a chin wag. She lives in berlin but is coming home to spend xmas with her folks in canterbury. My current girlfriend can't come with me as she'll be in paris anyway why would I turn up to meet my ex with my current girlfriend its hardly fair on the ex is it. Think about it.

 

[cam]

for a start tickle can't spell clitoris which is just unforgivable.

Fucking top quality mate

although I cant speak lol i spelt it as she did still I can spell dick

 

[Northern Star]

. My current girlfriend can't come with me as she'll be in paris anyway why would I turn up to meet my ex with my current girlfriend its hardly fair on the ex is it. Think about it.

Sounds like you wanna get ur priorities right...whos feeling count more......ur ex or Charlotte!!!!!! :|

im shocked and stunned :S

but as you say poor charlotte will be in paris none the wiser eh at the end of the day! :$

 

[cam]

why dont you do the right thing, tell your mrs that shes coming over and when she does you normally meet up for a chin wag and nothing goes on and this has happened before you even met her.

Ask her if its ok if you go to meet her again on this plutonic basis and stress that if she says no you will think no less of her for saying so and also that if she says no you will not go and meet her.

You can also say you wouldnt be too sure about it yourself if the tables were turned and hence the reason your being honest with her about it.

She will respect you for that.

Its up to you if you want to go behind her back if she says no she doesnt want you to go, but at least youve given her the chance to let you go or not.

If she says no and your ex isnt happy at the fact you have a new life / woman, then is that someone you want as a friend anyway?

 

[Northern Star]

why dont you do the right thing, tell your mrs that shes coming over and when she does you normally meet up for a chin wag and nothing goes on and this has happened before you even met her.

Ask her if its ok if you go to meet her again on this plutonic basis and stress that if she says no you will think no less of her for saying so and also that if she says no you will not go and meet her.

You can also say you wouldnt be too sure about it yourself if the tables were turned and hence the reason your being honest with her about it.

She will respect you for that.

Its up to you if you want to go behind her back if she says no she doesnt want you to go, but at least youve given her the chance to let you go or not.

If she says no and your ex isnt happy at the fact you have a new life / woman, then is that someone you want as a friend anyway?

Perfection there Cam.........wow......im really amazed....there is hope for you yet lad!!!!! And i hate to say it 'you have an amazing ability of understanding women'

 

[marchwiel]

I'd tell her. If she is going to be away in Paris, that will make it worse later on if she does find out. It looks as if everytime she is out of the country you rush to meet up with an ex. If you present it to her as a fait accompli, and say openly that it is a Christmas tradition for you to meet up for an hour when she is back in the UK, then at least any trouble caused is due to the truth and not be you going behind her back.

 

[cam]

Perfection there Cam.........wow......im really amazed....there is hope for you yet lad!!!!! And i hate to say it 'you have an amazing ability of understanding women'

just you tell that to tickle my dear

 

[nathan]

wow

why dont you do the right thing, tell your mrs that shes coming over and when she does you normally meet up for a chin wag and nothing goes on and this has happened before you even met her.

Ask her if its ok if you go to meet her again on this plutonic basis and stress that if she says no you will think no less of her for saying so and also that if she says no you will not go and meet her.

You can also say you wouldnt be too sure about it yourself if the tables were turned and hence the reason your being honest with her about it.

She will respect you for that.

Its up to you if you want to go behind her back if she says no she doesnt want you to go, but at least youve given her the chance to let you go or not.

If she says no and your ex isnt happy at the fact you have a new life / woman, then is that someone you want as a friend anyway?

I think this is exactly what I will do. You can be quite normal and sensible when you want to be cam

 

[misstickle]

right here is the full sp....
for a start tickle can't spell clitoris which is just unforgivable.

:$ hahahahahaha. whoops :$

Dus that meen i is a fuly flegged osa'er now i is thick?

although I cant speak lol i spelt it as she did still I can spell dick

er that's coz it's your name hun


(hehe, how old am i)

 

[cam]

I think this is exactly what I will do. You can be quite normal and sensible when you want to be cam

Sure can fella

 

[sirius]

Frig me .....tomoraz paperz headlinez:



"CAM IN GOOD ADVISE SHOCKER"


Im gobsmacked, are you feeling okay mate? lol. .





Sirius.

 

[AB45]

, WE HAVE A CLITOROUS!!!!

A what?????

 

[cam]

Frig me .....tomoraz paperz headlinez:



"CAM IN GOOD ADVISE SHOCKER"


Im gobsmacked, are you feeling okay mate? lol. .





Sirius.

lol im quite good at manipulating people when I need too, im good at human phycology not something I talk about that much for obvious reasons

i think it was DJJAMIII's personality I summed up in 1 paragraph by only reading a few posts that he had put up when he first joined

 

[misstickle]

lol im quite good at manipulating people when I need too, im good at human phycology not something I talk about that much for obvious reasons

lol the obvious reason being, you cant spell it!

 

[cam]

lol the obvious reason being, you cant spell it!

I think we all know im not very good at spelling